Navigating the Holidays: A Guide to Cultivating Joy and Meaning

An anthropological explanation of strategies for the holidays.

How often have you thought of the holidays as an anthropological expedition? I had the pleasure to speak with Cher Murphy, an anthropologist and leadership advisor, to get her take on the holidays and how we can best navigate what can (for some) be the trickiest time of the year. Cher's unique perspective allows us to explore strategies for navigating the holiday season with intention and joy. In this blog post, we'll uncover Cher's wisdom on being present, fostering creativity, becoming a force for good, and the power of reflection during the festive season.

Being Present:

Cher emphasizes the importance of being present during the holidays. In a world that often expects a certain narrative, Cher suggests tuning into your own feelings and reactions. Whether you find solace in solitude or thrive in the midst of a bustling family gathering, being aware of your emotions is the first step. Cher, also a yoga teacher, recommends a simple breathing exercise to ground yourself. By breathing in for a count of 4 and out for 6 or 8, you can slow down the pace of stress hormones, promoting a sense of calm.

Cher's advice extends to physical presence, advocating for walks and outdoor activities. Taking a moment for yourself, connecting with nature, and acknowledging your emotions can help you navigate the holiday season authentically.

Fostering Creativity:

Holidays often come with societal expectations and traditions, but Cher encourages us to be creative in our celebrations. As a remedy to the pressure of perfection, she suggests reevaluating and reshaping traditions to fit your current stage in life. By embracing creativity, you have the freedom to design your holiday experience, breaking free from societal norms.

Cher shares her personal experience of giving her family a "sabbatical" from a long-standing tradition, reinventing it in a new location and manner. This flexibility and creativity can alleviate the stress of comparison and foster a sense of fulfillment.

Being a Force for Good:

Cher advocates for stepping outside of oneself and becoming a force for good during the holidays. Engaging with the community, helping others, and fostering connections beyond the family circle can combat self-centeredness. Cher shares anecdotes of delivering special gifts to friends in need and participating in community service during Thanksgiving. By contributing positively to the lives of others, one not only reduces anxiety but also cultivates a deeper sense of purpose and meaning.

The Power of Reflection:

In the rush of holiday preparations, Cher reminds us of the often overlooked but crucial act of reflection. The holidays can be a time to remember and appreciate those who are no longer with us. Cher shares her personal tradition of reflecting on happy moments and expressing gratitude for growth and change over the year. Taking a moment to be reflective allows us to appreciate the richness of our experiences and set intentions for the future.

Cher Murphy's anthropological insights and leadership guidance offer a refreshing perspective as we navigate the holiday season. By being present, fostering creativity, becoming a force for good, and reflecting on our journey, we can transform the holidays into a time of genuine joy, connection, and personal growth. Cher's wisdom serves as a guide to participate in the holidays with authenticity, intention, and a heart full of gratitude.

You can learn more about Cher on LinkedIn