Unlocking the Web of Mentorship
Why Everyone, Even Experts, Need Mentors
Have you ever wondered whether mentors have mentors themselves? And if they do, who guides them? Does aging mean we're left without mentors?
The answer is no!
Even those at the top of their game require guidance.
Mentors can also be learners.
Being a mentor doesn't preclude one from being mentored. Mentorship isn't a straightforward, top-down affair. It's a multifaceted network of connections. We seek guidance from others when needed and, likewise, extend support when sought by others. Mentorship is more than a hierarchical structure; it's a dynamic exchange. Rather than a rigid hierarchy, mentorship resembles a complex web of mutual assistance, where individuals seek guidance, support, skills, or knowledge from each other. I term this lateral mentoring. Mentorship isn't confined to face-to-face interactions either; it can thrive remotely. We can have mentors with whom we don't directly interact but guide us within group settings, whether online or offline. Many gather in groups outside of professional realms to glean insights from experts in various fields. Group members, often experts in their own right, seek fresh perspectives on different subjects. These groups are ubiquitous and can be accessed through social media, communities, or word of mouth. Simply observing these mentors within group settings, either online or offline, can illuminate paths we hadn't previously considered.
Mentorship blossoms into a vast network of connections.
As we age, our connections may dwindle in number but deepen in significance. Former acquaintances are like fragile strings, easily severed, while meaningful connections resemble sturdy ropes as we mature. We gravitate towards friends we can rely on and who can likewise rely on us. These connections serve as our mentors. Perhaps we seek guidance from one connection regarding healthcare issues and turn to another for assistance with a perplexing hobby-related challenge. In midlife and beyond, our relationships evolve from superficial chatter over drinks to meaningful conversations that offer guidance, problem-solving, and enrichment.
Mentors may already be in your circle!
The next time you engage with a friend, consider the nature of your interactions. You'll likely find yourself seeking advice, guidance, or reassurance on values you hold dear. And, you are likely being mentored and mentoring those close to you all the time (this is called lateral mentoringâ„¢). As we age, our mentors may not be our superiors at work but rather friends and respected connections who enrich our lives.
Even experts need mentors, and as we age, we continue to have a desire to learn from those around us. The next time you look to your left or to your right, the person you see is likely someone you may mentor or have as a mentor. We all engage in mentorship but may not even be aware of it!